Single White Female
I have considered myself single since my plane left Munich nearly three months ago. In some ways I feel like I should be sadder about the fact that I don’t miss A., but because I haven’t found myself regretting the decision I made, I know I made the right choice.
And I don’t know if I should or not, but I recently realized that I am beginning to think about seeing someone new and I don’t feel guilty about it. I don’t have a particular person in mind, rather that if-that-cute-guy-up-the-block-just-so-happened-to-ask-me-out-I-would-
think-about-it kind of thinking.
Unfortunately, this type of thinking also has me thinking about other consequences possibilities and I just don’t know whether or I want to think of them.
It is sort of weird to write this, but I have never really been one to “date.” Somehow I always seem to see the people that I “date” for an extended period of time. While this in and of itself doesn’t bother me, what does bother me is this fact plus my current geographical location.
Despite the fact that I actually haven’t minded staying in my hometown temporarily, I have no desire whatsoever to stay here any longer than necessary. I am not sure which I would hate more; to just get involved with someone and then leave or to be offered a great job somewhere and then be asked to stay.
And though I totally lack a social life at the moment and I’m desperate to interact with people my approximate age, no connections are probably better given my current situation. I need to reestablish myself as a single professional woman.
Perhaps what I need is a one night stand… 
28 November 2006 at 09:15
Sounds so familiar, or at least sounded two-or-so years ago. But it’s always good to realise trough such things that you’re done the right choice.
And let me recommend Friend With Benefits, they can be nice things to have.
Btw, love your template.
28 November 2006 at 13:27
Hi,
do take a while to settle into your own life. Wishing for a social life wouldn’t make it happen, and I’m sure you’d hate it if your professional life forces you to give up the social life that you had.
I’m not sure how its like in america - but here in germany, once the university is behind you, its kindda hard to get to know new people, especially if you are *sigh* over 30.
since you probably don’t want to cling on to your ex-buddies (which is highly unlikely, since they’d probably have gone on to their own lives), your other choice would be to have a life of your own. but that takes time.
just relax. focus on enjoying the breathing space and the free time while you can. after work starts again, you’d be bashing yourself silly wondering why you didn’t enjoy the time whist you had it.
John
Aachen,
Germany
29 November 2006 at 15:54
Since you are breaking out of the old mold, maybe now is precisely the time to try going out on “just a date.”
9 December 2006 at 04:47
As another single woman tired of the chore of the dating game, I thought you might appreciate these Renee:
DICTIONARY FOR WOMEN’S PERSONAL ADS
40-ish………….49
Adventurous……..Slept with everyone
Athletic………..No tits
Average looking….Ugly
Beautiful……….Pathological liar
Contagious Smile…Does a lot of pills
Emotionally secure.On medication
Feminist………..Fat
Free.Spirit……..Junkie
Friendship first…Former slut
Fun…………….Annoying
New Age…………Body hair in the wrong places
Old-fashioned……No BJs
Open-minded……..Desperate
Outgoing………..Loud and Embarrassing Passionate………Sloppy drunk
Professional…….Bitch
Voluptuous………Very Fat
Large frame……..Hugely Fat
Wants Soul mate….Stalker
11 December 2006 at 05:44
Newly single? Sinus infection? Are you my twin??!!
11 December 2006 at 09:02
Woah, big life changes! Hope you’re readjusting well and enjoy your one night stand.